It’s that time of the year again where people have either already made their new resolutions or are busy making them. Almost every blog I’ve read talked about it. At one point, I even felt stressed for not having done up my list. But when I tried to get down to it, the words just won’t flow. It shouldn’t be, I thought to myself. After all, I really know what I want to work on this year.
But there I was, feeling a tussle between the brain and the heart – the brain said go ahead and draw up a list of goals, the heart simply retorted “wait”.
Then I read a timely post by Lisa Byrne about how NOT to enter the new year. She wrote that “not only is it unrealistic to really prepare the soil for an abundant harvest in such a small window of time… but it doesn’t actually honour the whole season we are entering into”.
Her words resonated with me. I took her advice to “acknowledge, celebrate and honour” the meaningful moments of 2012 and not jump into action before I’m ready.
Out of those quiet moments of taking stock, visioning and waiting, I ended up with ideas to do some things different this year…
1. Not goal but FOCUS
This year, there will be no new year goals or resolutions for me.
Instead, I’m going to work on areas of FOCUS.
A thought came to mind the other day. Perhaps the reason why so many of us have difficulty in achieving our goals or keeping to our new year resolutions is not because we are ill-disciplined or lack motivation but that the whole thing about setting goals is not the best way to an improved life and self.
In general, I find that a goal tends to be restrictive and narrow; a focus, on the other hand, is more encompassing and offers room for flexibility to honour the ebb and flow of life and to change with them when the need arises.
Also, goal is usually very specific about a certain point in time and we feel stress if we don’t achieve it by the date. However, focus gives us a direction without a fixed date (as long as it’s within the year) and other specifications so this actually makes the process less stressful and more enjoyable. When we like what we are doing, we will usually be more motivated to keep it going. Meanwhile, we can also be more creative and open-minded about the options that come our way. In the end, it is likely that we will achieve what we first planned and even more!
For 2013, I have not one but four areas of focus:
Health and well-being – I’m working on boosting me and my family’s immunity; I’m also hoping to create a chemical-free home environment. With this, I guess you’ll see more posts on those topics here, sharing about what works for me and my family (hope that’s something of interest to you!).
Systems – Putting in place systems for my home and my work so that I can be more efficient and effective. These include things like meal-planners (hadn’t been consistent last year), better home organization (I can be quite disorganised and time is wasted on looking for things) and working out blocks of time for different activities in the day. In the process, I will also be eliminating the time/energy/resource wasters.
Finances – learning to better manage my finances, plugging leakages, being more mindful of my spending and looking at improving my income.
God – Walking closer to God and inspiring my family to do the same. I hope to be regular in church and settle down in a fellowship group.
2. ONE WORD for 2013
Another first that I’m doing in 2013 is to choose ONE WORD for the year to guide me in what I do throughout the next 12 months. When I shared this idea with a friend, she commented that it’s like a theme for the new year. So I guess you can see it that way too.
For me, the word ‘COURAGE’ came swiftly to mind. At first, I pushed it aside, thinking of other words like Simplicity and Mindfulness instead. However, the word kept returning and I can’t help but to give it more thought.
Then I realised it made sense. There are some things I plan to do this year that will require much courage from me. I will be pushing myself out of the comfort zone, I may do things that’s unconventional, so yes, I need courage.
How about you? Do you make new year goals/resolutions or are you doing something different this year as well? Do you also have a word for the new year?
I wish you an awesome year fill with all things good and beautiful!
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