Enjoy Your Child

by Ruth on October 21, 2011

in Motherhood

 

We’ve just returned from a family holiday and though it’s just a short trip (4 days to be exact), I can’t believe it can be THIS TIRING. It must be a sign of ageing.

Throughout the trip (which I’ll share more after sorting through the tonnes of photos), I didn’t have access to the internet and like coffee drinker not getting her daily caffeine fix, I felt like I was experiencing the withdrawal.

But God knows I needed that, to just be with my family and not think about anything else. With the entrapment of modern technology, don’t we sometimes end up being physically there but not fully present, as our attention get diverted to our iPhones, iPads and other gadgets? I’m guilty of that ever so often and this trip was a good reminder to be more present with those I love and to spend time on what truly matters in life.

And some thing else touched my heart.

On the flight to our destination, the lady beside me initiated a chat. She talked about her business and her children, and then to my surprise, praised Kenan for being very well-behaved.

Well behaved? I almost started telling tales of his mischief and tantrums, but decided not to bore her with the details. Later, she enthusiastically showed Kenan photos of her cat and dog, to which he showed no sign of interest. I felt bad about it, because she obviously adores her pets. Our conversation came to a halt when meals were served and I got busy feeding Kenan.

About half an hour later before she closed her eyes to sleep, she turned towards me and said, “Enjoy your son”.

Enjoy my son? I’m not quite sure if I ever used the word ‘enjoy’ to describe parenting Kenan, especially not when I’ve been feeling frustrated lately dealing with his increasing tantrums. While he has brought me lots of joy, I never quite thought of being a mom as an enjoyment.

For the rest of holiday, the words of my fellow passenger echoed in my mind. Slowly, I saw the wisdom of her words. It felt like a message God wants me to hear, and this is what I learnt.

That as a parent, I should learn to be more relaxed and accepting – be it towards his playfulness, his messing up the house, or his so-called ‘difficult’ behaviours. After all, he’s just doing what ever little child his age would do.

And very soon, he will be all grown up and I’ll miss these precious moments when he’s just a sweet and sometimes playful little boy. When I look back at these times, I believe I will forget all about the mischief and tantrums and only remember with fondness his cute and endearing ways. Like how he now thank us (using baby signs) when we buy things for him, how he rains kisses on me when he knows I’m angry with him or how he simply loves to stick to me and thinks the world of me.

Thank you, fellow passenger and mommy, for those wise words! Yes, I’ll learn to enjoy my son, have more fun with him and enjoy the parenting journey.

 

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Yee Lin October 21, 2011 at 5:46 PM

This is very sweet and very true. Now that my family is so far away from home, I find that we're really spending more quality time together. More so than we were back in SG. We must try and treasure this short time with our babies because they grow too fast. :)

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Ruth October 22, 2011 at 5:06 PM

Yes, they really do grow very fast! It's great that your move allow you to spend more quality time with your family, and very soon you'll have another baby to enjoy :)

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life-muse October 24, 2011 at 5:26 AM

This is so sweet and poignant… taking time to enjoy the little things or in this case little people :) … do share on your trip! Especially with a toddler in tow!

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Ruth October 24, 2011 at 12:03 PM

Somehow, ever since I decided to 'enjoy my boy', I feel like I'm getting less frustrated with him and he's also happier. But of course, there are times I need to discipline him ;)

Yes, I'll share more about the trip soon! Still trying to catch up with some work, once that's done, I can get down to blogging about my holiday :)

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sam November 9, 2011 at 4:14 PM

Enjoyment? LOL. As a mother of 4 of ages 3-17yrs, I'd not think of children as an "enjoyment"!!! Maybe the toddlers are sweet (apart from the whinniness and tantrums) but they do grow into other super-challenging phases. *sigh*.
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Ruth November 10, 2011 at 6:09 AM

Yes, that's why the lady told me to enjoy him NOW! Haha! Anyway, it's good to reframe the situation and try to see things in a more positive light, or else I'll frustrate myself to death with his increasing tantrums! But I believe parenting can still be a joy, in spite of the challenges and 'pains' we experience along the way. Yes? ;)

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